Here you will get help to understand your emotions and find tools to manage them in a healthy way.
What is jealousy – really?
Jealousy is often a mixture of fear, insecurity, and the need for control . It can be triggered by:
fear of being abandoned
previous infidelity experiences
low self-esteem
unresolved traumas or relationship patterns
Signs that your jealousy has gone too far
You control your partner (cell phone, social media, schedules)
You often feel threatened by others, even without clear reasons
You get anxious when your partner is with friends
You experience shame after your reactions – but find it difficult to stop
If you recognize yourself – you are not alone . It is possible to change.
What does psychology say?
Jealousy is often more about one's inner state than the external situation . It can be linked to attachment patterns from childhood, low self-esteem, or past betrayal. A common thought is: “I'm not enough – sooner or later they'll leave me.”
Here, talk therapy or digital CBT can play an important role.
Five proven strategies for dealing with jealousy
- Reflect on the origins.
Write down what triggers the feeling. Is it current or linked to old patterns?
- Communicate honestly – but not in controlling manner
Say: “I feel anxious when…” instead of “Why do you like her pictures?”
- Build self-esteem
The more secure you are in yourself, the less threatened you feel by others.
- Set boundaries – for yourself
Not acting on every feeling is a strength. Breathe. Write. Wait.
- Seek support in time
Talk to a psychologist if jealousy is controlling your choices, sabotaging your relationships, or making you feel down.
Dare to take the first step – for your own sake
Jealousy hurts – but it can also be a wake-up call . With the right tools, you can transform it into self-knowledge, security and stronger relationships.
